The Power of Guilt vs. Shame

Understanding the difference between Shame and Guilt is huge... Both for ourselves and the people in our lives that we love. Guilt is the feeling of not being good enough. Whenever we make a mistake, we feel like we let someone down, and we feel Guilty. From Guilt we can look at the situation and learn [...]

2017-05-15T14:09:41+00:00 May 15th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Do Your Best, Surrender the Rest.

Surrender is such a tricky word, it can get bogged down in negative connotations associated with "giving up" or "quitting" -- but that isn't what Surrender means when I use it. Here's the short, important point: Surrender is ONLY when we are talking about what is out of your control. If you do your [...]

2017-05-09T17:23:13+00:00 May 9th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

When things go painfully wrong, regardless of whose fault it is…

It isn't that you ever don't care when things go wrong,  and it isn't that it stops being painful when things go wrong. It is how you deal with the pain or discomfort, and how you deal with the situation that shifts.   Do you look at pain as an opportunity to grow or do [...]

2017-05-09T17:23:19+00:00 April 15th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

External Validation vs. Knowing Yourself.

Let's talk about External Validation. Of course it feels good to get a pat on the back, support that we are on the right track... and it's hard and possibly painful when we Don't. Get. It.  It can take the wind right out of our sails. But let's look at this for a minute. If [...]

2017-03-29T16:33:11+00:00 March 29th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Forgiveness, can you imagine?

The line from Hamilton in "It's Quiet Uptown" cuts to the core of humanity... after all that they have been through, when that line is quietly sung, you can practically hear the gasps and sighs. (Cue Pam crying.) Forgiveness, can you imagine? Forgiveness is one of the most discussed spiritual practices, prominently featured in virtually [...]

2017-03-15T16:48:06+00:00 March 15th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Taking Ownership = Getting Out of Our Own Way

Our brain loves to blame things (and people!) outside of ourselves for the "bad things" that "happen to us"... And this is exactly the kind of thing that is getting in the way of our greatness. I don't know about you, but I catch my brain trying to blame all the time... and then there are [...]

2017-03-05T16:36:51+00:00 March 5th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Inner Scientific Exploration and Experimentation: Dive in.

I've always loved science.  Simply put, I always wanted to figure out EVERYTHING, and science is about that exploration and absolute knowledge.  It is just a hypothesis until you do your research and have repeatable experiments to prove either what you thought or, proved something different than you thought.  There wasn't (or isn't) an area [...]

2017-02-21T18:28:26+00:00 February 21st, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Gratitude is X Marks the Spot for Abundance

OK, picture a pirate treasure map.  X marks the spot for where you need to go to find the treasure, right? That X is at a particular longitude and latitude location -- a real place that one can find and start digging. Here's the weird thing that I have discovered: GRATITUDE is X Marks the [...]

2017-02-16T15:39:43+00:00 February 16th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments